8 Signs That You’re Micromanaging Your Youth Sports Athlete

Believe it not, you might be overstepping your boundaries as a parent at your child’s youth sports game. In fact, you may not even realize it — so, in order to help, we’ve got some easy to sight signs that you are overdoing it. Do you attend every youth sports event your child plays? Do you take him to camps and clinics? What about practicing with him in the backyard?

These all sound like good things for a youth sports parents to do, but there is a fine line between parents who are engaged and supportive and those who are too involved. These parents often micromanage their young athletes, even though they are only intending to be loving, supportive parents.

For your child’s sake — and yours too! — here are some signs that you may be micromanaging your athlete.

You repeat yourself too often

Parents who are over-parenting often find themselves frequently telling their kids what to do, even nagging them to do so. This is especially tempting for youth sports parents who want to push their kids to practice extra or work out.

You won’t let your child to fail

No parent enjoys watching a child fail, but constantly rescuing them will keep a young athlete from learning valuable lessons. Recovering from failure provides children with opportunities to discover how they can do things differently in the future.

You praise too much

Yes, your child needs encouragement, but sometimes sports parents go overboard. If you praise your child every time he does something, especially when it’s for something he’s  already done 1,000 times, your words will lose their meaning — particularly so when the feedback is actually needed. 

You keep your child booked

Look at your child’s weekly schedule — is every afternoon and evening filled with activities? When a parent feels the need to fill every hour on the schedule, it’s a sign of their need to control — and thus micromanage — their child’s time, leaving him little free time to just be a kid.

You and your child have frequent power struggles

A good sign you’re micromanaging comes when you’re arguing with your 7 year-old about eating breakfast or with your 16 year-old about his misplacing his team uniform. The most effective parents choose their battles and when your teenager realizes he’s starving by 11AM because he didn’t each breakfast, he’ll learn.

You interfere with playing time struggles

Let your child talk to the coach if she is frustrated. This is her battle, not yours.

You help your child even when you’re not asked

Many youth sports parents jump up to help before kids have a chance to figure it out for themselves. Sometimes it’s best to step back and wait until your child asks for help. If you’re quick to tell her how to fix her problem in sports, she won’t develop the crucial problem-solving skills.

You want to know every detail of practice

As a naturally curious person, this is a tough one for me — I like to know the details. However, there is a difference between asking your child about how practice went and interrogating her about whether she started, how much she played, and what the coach said about her. Unless you suspect a lack of safety or another serious problem, there’s no need to press your young athlete for every detail from their practice or game.

If you think you may be micromanaging your child, you can break the habit one step at a time. Start in areas that have smaller consequences and keep in mind that if you’re not micromanaging the little things, your child will be more likely to listen to you when it really matters.

Next time you’re tempted to micromanage, ask yourself: Will this help my athlete become more independent and develop leadership skills? If the answer is no, then maybe it’s time to take a few steps back and let your child do some managing on his own.

Source:  http://blog.coachup.com/2016/09/06/micromanage-youth-sports/